6 Ways to Be a Better Friend in 2017 Jan 30, 2017 by Sarah (Day Styles)
How many times have you caught yourself saying “I’ve been such a bad friend lately?” You’re not alone, that’s for sure. We understand how that feels. But that doesn’t mean it has to stay the same in 2017. Sometimes it’s the little things that can help to make us better friends to those we love!
Call on the Regular
Instead of calling once every few months, call more often! It doesn’t take much to call on your commute home from work or give them a call on your lunch break. Take a few minutes and find out what’s new in their life and update them on your life too. Calling every week will show your friends how interested you are in keeping caught up in their life. If you can’t call, at least send a long text or email every week and keep the conversation going!
The number one reason people don’t remain close as friends is that they don’t see each other enough. So, if you set up a time to meet your friends, stick to it! No one likes the person who bails on every single plan, so don’t be that person. It makes people think that they don’t matter to you, and besides - they’re your friends for a reason, it will be a great time to hang out with them!
Be There for Them
When friends are going through hard times, it can be hard to help, but those are the times that we need our friends the most. Despite the emotional burden it might entail, don’t distance yourself from your friends when times get tough. Even if it’s not a major crisis, but things aren’t going great, try and lend a hand. You can always offer to do little things like picking up groceries or running errands. Stick by them until they get through it - and they’ll stick by YOU when you need help.
Celebrate the Small Things
Don’t hesitate to celebrate with them when something great or amazing happens in their life, no matter if it’s big or small. Telling someone (or showing someone) how proud of them you are can mean the world to someone without you even knowing it. All too often we feel battered and bruised by every little thing in life, and forget to think about the good things.
Friendship is a two-way street, and when it comes time for you to listen to your friends, make sure you’re there to lend an ear. Make sure your conversations aren’t one-sided and listen to them when they have issues or problems in their lives. Sometimes all we need is someone who is REALLY listening. And if you genuinely listen to their problems, they will be more willing to help with yours.
Nobody is perfect, and your friends will have flaws. We’re friends with people because their positive attributes outweigh their negative ones, so embrace your friends AND their flaws. Don’t try and force someone to fit your idea of a friend if they don’t want to change - if you still get along, don’t ruin a good thing! If your friends accept you for your flaws, accept them for theirs. If that’s the case, your friendships will be healthy and VERY strong!
Want a better year in 2017? Be a better friend.