Crucial Keys to Long-Term Relationship Success Sep 25, 2015 by Cathy (Day Styles)
The majority of people are looking to settle down in a “happily ever after” relationship at some point in their lives. Unfortunately according to experts at Psychology Today, in the United States up to 55% of marriages end in divorce, and the stat is almost 50% in Canada. Often it’s the “rush” to tie the knot that interferes with logic. Shouldn’t you be looking for traits that will stand the test of time? We will all start to crinkle as our physical shell deteriorates. You should be asking yourself what’s left when this happens. In other words, stop yourself and take a practical look down the road 30 or 40 years before you choose a mate to give your life to. Here's a few key relationship factors to consider.
If you don’t have the super-essential-non-negotiable-always-there factor of trust, then you have nothing! Top notch psychologists label trust as the number one factor in the success of a long-term committed relationship. Translation…If you don’t have trust up front, your relationship is doomed to fail sooner than later. To put this in perspective, without trust, you can’t possibly build and find meaning in any of the other top factors in establishing a long-lasting healthy union. If you can’t establish beyond a shadow of a doubt that you have trust in your potential life partner, then you need to set them loose and move on without them. Tough but true.
How Level Are You On Intimacy Issues
Emotional connection, of course, is crazy important in any relationship. Some more than others. What you should be looking for is a likeness surrounding intimacy and what you want, need, and expect from one another. For example, let’s just talk about the act of sex for a minute. If you are happy and satisfied with sex once a week and your partner expects and “needs” sex 5 or 6 times a day, you are not sexually compatible for one another. Trust me on this one. It may seem okay in the beginning, but it won’t take time for you to feel used and abused because your sex addict partner just can’t stop. In your head, it will become disrespectful and an annoying job you are giving into just to keep the peace. The other dimensions of intimacy are emotional, shared activates, and intellectual. Make sure you look at all levels of intimacy and if you have to rank yourself and each other on each level. There is always room for negotiating and meeting in the middle. But if you are extreme to start don’t expect “love” to change this. It won’t.
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